**WARNING: Rant ahead. Skip to avoid the verbally-violent ramblings of a righteously-indignant woman.**
I have an incredibly low tolerance for adulterers. You can reference my McCain post to see a glimpse of my wrathful hate towards cheating scumbags. IMHO, the vows uttered on the altar are sacred and binding, regardless of one's religious leanings. The words spoken represent an oath and a commitment that lasts forever, and should not be broken in any way, shape, or form until death separates the spouses. Though I suppose this sentiment is oft-associated with marriage and divorce, I believe it applies equally to monogamy. Unless one's pledged vows are, "I will love and honour and cherish you and be faithful to you only until things get uncomfortable or tough or boring," or "I will love and honour and cherish you and also some other people, and be sort of faithful to you, excluding a few other people that I might chance upon and be sexually attracted to," one is both legally and morally bound to remain monogamous to their spouse, as per the binding oral contract they've pledged to them.
My sudden wrath was awakend by yesterday's headlines concerning Gordon Ramsay, of Hell's Kitchen and potty-mouthed fame. If the News of the World is to be believed, then Ramsay is the biggest douche-bag ever, even beating out John McCain who left his disfigured wife for an heiress.
(Disclaimer - Although I realize that NoTW isn't exactly the most reputable source, and journalistic integrity is debatably lacking in their articles, more often than not, scandalous reports of this nature are not so out-to-lunch as one might think. The British tabloids are far better able to sniff out truthful stories than their U.S. counterparts, and I believe that this is an example of such.)
So it seems that good ol' groping Gordy had a hard time keeping it in his pants....for seven years. This means that for more than half of his married life (which is 12 years), he has allegedly been sleeping with a "professional mistress" on the side. She, a supposedly-reformed married-man-dating homewrecker, has opportunistically profitted from her shameless pursuits by writing books and columns about mistressing, and by offering "counseling" to other ho-bags who are dating married guys. She (whose name deserves no mention on this blog) has previously claimed to be "reformed" from her home-wrecking ways, though NoTW seems to suggest otherwise. Apparently, Gordon the Git and this slut (and I do not use this term lightly, being fully aware of the many connotations associated with the word) enjoyed a tryst only a few days ago.
As I've read about his supposed philandering, I cannot help but feel incredibly sorry for his wife Tana, who has shown a united front with the cheating cad by publicly standing with him in photo opps yesterday. Of course, no comment of denial has been issued by either Rat-Bastard Ramsay or his publicist, and Tana has also refused to comment on the allegations. To me, the lack of denial speaks volumes to the truthfulness of these claims. If one is truly innocent, why would one not immediately leap to their own defense with both a vehement denial and equally-immediate legal action? To avoid addressing it at all is to me a tacit confession of guilt.
It offends me even more that the "brand" that this two-timing wanker has been trying to pawn off in books and on TV is that of a loyal, loving family-man. On numerous occassions in interviews, recreant Ramsay has boasted of his fidelity and attraction to his wife alone, and alluded to their supposedly-active sex life. Evidently, this lying loser failed to mention that he also found a certain skank equally attractive for the better part of his marriage.
Though I realize that many justify affairs by rationalizing that something must be inherently wrong in the marital relationship beforehand, driving a spouse to "meet their needs" elsewhere, I would argue that the state of the marriage is irrelevant. Sure, maybe there isn't enough love or affirmation or ego-stroking. Maybe spats are everyday occurrences, and communication has broken down. This does not alter the basic truth that both spouses stood before family, friends, and God (or whatever they believe in) and made an oral contract with one another promising unending love, respect, and faithfulness, until death parts one of them. Ramsay the jerk-off is not yet dead. Nor is his wife. Therefore, if he has slept with someone other than his wife, he has violated his contract and broken his vows. He has dishonoured Tana, disrespected her, and even if he loves her, he has shown her a contempt that borders on being a hate crime. He has violated her trust, and been an unfaithful partner.
I am sure some might also want to blame the hussy that has made a career out of ruining marriages and sleeping with married men. I'm with you on that, but don't even get me started on the whores or scumbags that get involved with married folks. That is a whole other post unto itself ;) The point is, the responsibility for faithfulness rests with the one who is married and who has pledged the marriage vows. Regardless of the evil seductive nature of the harlots and manwhores who tempt a spouse, the choice to cheat or to stay faithful is ultimately made by the one with the ring and the life partner. Period.
So what is to become of the Ramsays, I do not yet know. The next few days will likely reveal more sordid details, and I would imagine that a "refusal to dignify ridiculous claims with a response" will follow. There will be a bunch of public outings undertaken by Tana and that sleazebag she's married to, and together they will likely attempt a weathering of the storm, even as their marriage falls apart behind closed doors. The floozy will either release proof of the affair or deny it on several media outlets to extend her 15-minutes, and then she will either launch a career in reality TV or write a tell-all, or get paid for her silence (all the while still profiting from these allegations). Once an opportunisitic b*tch, always one.
Either way, I'm done with Gordon Ramsay and his TV shows and his cookbooks. Hubbs & I had been enjoying the Kitchen Nightmare series and had even contemplated picking up a recipe book authored by this scoundrel. No longer. Even if Tana takes him back, this conscience-less creep is dead to me.