Sunday, November 30, 2008

Me Me Me Meme

It's almost Monday, and I have found a meme that I don't believe I've completed yet.  Thanks to Facebook and Julie B. for posting; I've ripped it off from there :) to talk about myself some more.

This time last November, were you single? 
Not at all.  4 Novembers ago, I got engaged.  3 Novembers ago, I was a newlywed.  I have enjoyed every November since 2003 (Hubbs and I met in Dec. 2002).

Who can you blame for your bad mood today? 
Realistically, just me, if I would have been in a bad mood.  Fortunately, today was a good day and I was in an awesome mood.  Usually I blame Hubbs, and sometimes unfairly so. ;)

What do you prefer skittles or starbursts? 
Neither.  I'm not really a "candy" person, and frankly, I can think of several better ways to consume those calories than by popping sugar clusters covered with artificial food colouring.

How was last night?
Date night at an all-you-can-eat Brazilian steakhouse called Samba.  A cocktail, a jug of sangria, and many servings of meat later, I was living large. :)  I love my life!

If you're being extremely quiet, what does it mean? 
I'm pissed off, or else I'm completely bagged, or else I'm listening.  Usually I am not quiet.  Ask anyone who knows me.

What is your mom listed under in your phone? 
By my folks' last name.

Have you ever kissed someone and never saw them again? 
No.  I am not a kissing ho, and I usually save my smooches for someone whom I am in a relationship with.  Nowadays, Hubbs is the only recipient.

How are you feeling right now? 
Regretful for the many cups of coffee that I consumed today.  This explains why I'm up and alert at this late hour.

What was your last argument about? 
I don't actually remember.  Usually arguments are the result of frustration/hunger/fatigue + some silly conflict added to the mix.  When that's the case, these arguments are hardly worth remembering.  

Last nap? 
A couple of days ago.  I love napping but I have been too busy to really fit one in.

Who were the first 2 people you heard this morning? 
Hubbs...and then the server from our favourite breakfast place.  His name is Randy.

Have you ever liked anyone that treated you like crap? 
If by "like" one means in a romantic way, then no (unless you count grade school crushes that probably had no idea that I existed).  If by "like" one means in a platonic friendship way, then yes, but not for long.  My tolerance levels grow shorter with age, too, so I put up with far less crap now than I did when I was in my early 20's.  Fortunately, "friends" like that are easy to replace.

Do you believe in celebrating anniversaries? 
I believe in celebrating, period.  I prefer to remain in a perpetually celebratory state, if I can.

Have you ever stayed in a hotel? 
This is a stupid question, and yes, I have.  Many, many times.  

Ever been told you were loved by someone who didn't mean it? 
My ex-boyfriend comes to mind, but then again, he probably meant it at the time.  

Do you think someone is thinking about you right now? 
Hubbs is.  God is.  And me, of course. :)

Who's the last person you talked to on the phone? 
The restaurant reservation person - I tried to get our reservation changed but of course they had blackout times for the time that we wanted it changed to, so we stuck with our original reservation time.

Are you a big fan of snowstorms or thunderstorms? 
Maybe I am weird, but I do enjoy a good thunderstorm.  It reminds me of how powerful and mighty God is, and how small and insignificant we are.

Could you go the rest of your life without smoking a cigarette? 
Well, I've gone this long with nary a puff.  I think I can last a few more decades.

Were you happy when you woke up today? 
I think so.  There is no explaining my moods.  Sometimes I wake up inexplicably happy, and other times I wake up a b*tch.  

How do you feel about chocolate covered strawberries? 
They are good decadent treats to enjoy on occasion.  To have them every day, or even every week, however, is overkill, and I can seem them quickly losing their novelty.

How do you vent anger? 
I stew and I steam and I huff and I puff and I generally get snarky.  It is probably a question best answered by Hubbs, who has seen me angry more often than most others.

Best thing you did for yourself today? 
I bought myself a table runner and mats for our new dining set.  It looks awesome set up with all the Christmas stuff!

Have you ever liked somebody and never told them? 
Often when I was in grade school.  Of course, they always found out anyway.

Do you believe everything happens for a reason? 
I believe that God is sovereign, and that in all things He works for the good of those who love Him and who have been called according to His purpose.  I also believe that God's greatest priorities are to be glorified, and to build His church, so all things that happen have a purpose of being used toward those ends.

Are you over your past? 
Depends.  Mostly, yes - I'm relatively baggage-free.  There are a few issues that I'm sure I haven't dealt with yet, simply because they haven't surfaced as problems at this point in my life.  

Has anyone disappointed you recently? 
Well, Hubbs *did* get a grease stain on my newly-purchased dinner table mat, and when I threw that thing in the wash, it came out way smaller than the other 3 in the set.  That was pretty disappointing.

Do you plan on moving within the next year? 
No.  I live in Paradise and in a fantastic flat.  Why would I move?

Does it take a lot to make you cry? 
Nope.  It takes hardly anything, in fact.  That said, there are places where I refuse to cry, such as in my classroom, or in the principal's office.

Is there someone you wish you were still close with? 
Would it make me an awful person if I said no?  Some friends are circumstantial, while others are substantial.  Both are necessary in life, though the former may only be important for a certain season of one's life.  A natural divergence in paths will occur at some point, and this is neither a good nor a bad thing.  It simply is a part of the ebb and flow of life.  When those deemed as "substantial" friends end up drifing apart, it is merely a confirmation that the relationship was far more circumstantial than it ever was, substantial.

What do majorty of people in your life call you? 
By my given name.  Or by my teacher name, Mrs. **********.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

6 Random Things


No, I wasn't "tagged," but I decided to tell you 6 random things about me anyway, just because I'm a narcissist and I like to talk about myself ;)  I know I did this meme a while back but I thought I'd get even more...random.

1) I have a very limited temperature tolerance threshold.  Ask Hubbs.  I get cold when it dips below 8 Celsius, and I get hot when it rises above 23 Celsius, give or take a degree.  This means that I am very finicky with the thermostat in my home, and also with the heater in the car, and especially with my bedroom temperatures.  To maximize warmth, it is best to contrast it with surrounding coolness, right?  Okay, that's not logical but it works for me.  I like to drop the temperature in the bedroom a few degrees so that it is a bit cool at night and in the mornings, and then I like to snuggle up and get warm with my Hubbs and also a nice heavy down or faux-down comforter.  It sucks when I wake up in the morning and it is cold, but the sleep is awesome.  Hubbs, by contrast, likes it warm.  He doesn't like to see temperatures dip below 0 but I think he thrives in 20+ conditions.  If/when we go to Vegas, I will probably be uncomfortable most of the time (the A/C being too cold, the outdoors being too hot), but I think Hubbs will love it.

2) I am not a fan of sour foods or candies.  Lemons only work in my water or fizzy drinks, or as a means to prevent browning apples, or as a zest for cooking.  Grapefruits, unless they are covered in sugar or Splenda, are also inedible in my books.  I prefer the "Delicious" apples to the "Granny" ones, and I cringe (and salivate simultaneously - but not in a good way) at the thought of sucking on one of those sour candies.  Hubbs, of course, loves all things sour.  They do say opposites attract.

3) I have a mild version of OCD; I'm convinced of that.  If I get on a "kick" about something, it consumes my thoughts for a long time, or until I complete the given task.  For example, when I discovered that Trade Secrets scratch remover for the floor, I became a vigilant scratch-remover for a full week.  That means that, the moment I would sit down, I'd scan the area around me to see if any scratches had surfaced or been missed, and the moment I spotted one, I'd be up and running for the oil and the cloth.  Then I'd go on a thorough search of scratches until I was convinced I had found them all, and removed them.  Then I'd sit back down, and repeat the process.  A full week of this, I kid you not.  Lately I've been on spider web patrol, because for some reason our place has them.  Not many, mind you.  Only enough for me to get paranoid and go OCD on it.

4) I like to take naps.  Short ones, long ones, it doesn't really matter.  Sometimes my most restful ones have only been 10-15 minutes long.  I think I operate more effectively when naps are a regular part of my life.  I think Hubbs believes this to be true, too! ;) Of course, when I'm teaching I do not have this luxury.  However, for now I will enjoy napping to my heart's content. :)

5) I love buying cleaning products.  It is a sickness, really.  I walk through those "cleaning" aisles at the supermarket and I want to buy up everything for my place, even though I don't clean nearly as often as I should.  Right now my stash is low, and I've limited myself to only the following (which I know is a ridiculously long list by most sane people's standards): Method Daily Shower Spray, Method Toilet Bowl Cleaner, Windex Lime, Nature Clean detergent, Method Granite spray, Method Stainless Steel spray, Easy-Off Ceramic Glasstop cleaner, VIM, Seventh Generation All-Purpose Spray, CLR spray, and VIM floor cleaner.  I also have several pairs of cleaning gloves, multiple sponges, and all sorts of floor care apparati (Swiffer, Swiffer Wetjet, Vlieda floor/wall mop, broom, brush).  I'm running low on the shower cleaner, too, so I'm off to buy more today.  I might end up with other "goodies" by the time I return.  Don't judge.

6) Flyers are my friends.  :) Okay, not literally, but I like them.  A lot.  Other people throw them into the recycle bin beside the mailboxes upon receipt, not even bothering to glance over them for a second.  I, however, take them up to my apartment and read them over carefully and thoroughly before I recycle them.  I love to know about sales.  I love being told about what I supposedly "need."  I love to see price reductions of 60%! Sale blowout! Don't miss!  When Hubbs & I first met, it was much to my disappointment to discover that he was not into flyers; he even had a note up on his mailbox indicating his refusal to accept flyers of any kind.  I'd have to wait until we visited my in-laws (who kindly set aside flyers for me to read) in order to catch up on the week's sales.  Then I'd have to pour over the flyers at their place, rudely shunning conversation until such time that my flyer addiction was satiated.  

So, as you can see, this narcissist is impossibly neurotic, possibly bordering on DSM-IV diagnosable.  I am a particular sort of person and fussy to the utmost, and sometimes I still feel shocked and amazed that I found such a patient man to love my strange self.  (Hubbs - if you're reading this, I love you!).  But I guess, really, we all have a bit of weird in us.  I can think of equally strange habits and preferences in some of my friends, too.  Feel free to share with me your random weirdness...y'know, just so that I don't feel like such a knob ;)

Monday, November 24, 2008



**WARNING: Rant ahead.  Skip to avoid the verbally-violent ramblings of a righteously-indignant woman.**

I have an incredibly low tolerance for adulterers.  You can reference my McCain post to see a glimpse of my wrathful hate towards cheating scumbags.  IMHO, the vows uttered on the altar are sacred and binding, regardless of one's religious leanings.  The words spoken represent an oath and a commitment that lasts forever, and should not be broken in any way, shape, or form until death separates the spouses.  Though I suppose this sentiment is oft-associated with marriage and divorce, I believe it applies equally to monogamy.  Unless one's pledged vows are, "I will love and honour and cherish you and be faithful to you only until things get uncomfortable or tough or boring," or "I will love and honour and cherish you and also some other people, and be sort of faithful to you, excluding a few other people that I might chance upon and be sexually attracted to," one is both legally and morally bound to remain monogamous to their spouse, as per the binding oral contract they've pledged to them.

My sudden wrath was awakend by yesterday's headlines concerning Gordon Ramsay, of Hell's Kitchen and potty-mouthed fame.  If the News of the World is to be believed, then Ramsay is the biggest douche-bag ever, even beating out John McCain who left his disfigured wife for an heiress.

(Disclaimer - Although I realize that NoTW isn't exactly the most reputable source, and journalistic integrity is debatably lacking in their articles, more often than not, scandalous reports of this nature are not so out-to-lunch as one might think.  The British tabloids are far better able to sniff out truthful stories than their U.S. counterparts, and I believe that this is an example of such.)

So it seems that good ol' groping Gordy had a hard time keeping it in his pants....for seven years. This means that for more than half of his married life (which is 12 years), he has allegedly been sleeping with a "professional mistress" on the side.  She, a supposedly-reformed married-man-dating homewrecker, has opportunistically profitted from her shameless pursuits by writing books and columns about mistressing, and by offering "counseling" to other ho-bags who are dating married guys.  She (whose name deserves no mention on this blog) has previously claimed to be "reformed" from her home-wrecking ways, though NoTW seems to suggest otherwise.  Apparently, Gordon the Git and this slut (and I do not use this term lightly, being fully aware of the many connotations associated with the word) enjoyed a tryst only a few days ago.

As I've read about his supposed philandering, I cannot help but feel incredibly sorry for his wife Tana, who has shown a united front with the cheating cad by publicly standing with him in photo opps yesterday.  Of course, no comment of denial has been issued by either Rat-Bastard Ramsay or his publicist, and Tana has also refused to comment on the allegations.  To me, the lack of denial speaks volumes to the truthfulness of these claims.  If one is truly innocent, why would one not immediately leap to their own defense with both a vehement denial and equally-immediate legal action?  To avoid addressing it at all is to me a tacit confession of guilt.

It offends me even more that the "brand" that this two-timing wanker has been trying to pawn off in books and on TV is that of a loyal, loving family-man.  On numerous occassions in interviews, recreant Ramsay has boasted of his fidelity and attraction to his wife alone, and alluded to their supposedly-active sex life.  Evidently, this lying loser failed to mention that he also found a certain skank equally attractive for the better part of his marriage.  

Though I realize that many justify affairs by rationalizing that something must be inherently wrong in the marital relationship beforehand, driving a spouse to "meet their needs" elsewhere, I would argue that the state of the marriage is irrelevant.  Sure, maybe there isn't enough love or affirmation or ego-stroking.  Maybe spats are everyday occurrences, and communication has broken down.  This does not alter the basic truth that both spouses stood before family, friends, and God (or whatever they believe in) and made an oral contract with one another promising unending love, respect, and faithfulness, until death parts one of them.  Ramsay the jerk-off is not yet dead.  Nor is his wife.  Therefore, if he has slept with someone other than his wife, he has violated his contract and broken his vows.  He has dishonoured Tana, disrespected her, and even if he loves her, he has shown her a contempt that borders on being a hate crime.  He has violated her trust, and been an unfaithful partner.  
I am sure some might also want to blame the hussy that has made a career out of ruining marriages and sleeping with married men.  I'm with you on that, but don't even get me started on the whores or scumbags that get involved with married folks.  That is a whole other post unto itself ;)  The point is, the responsibility for faithfulness rests with the one who is married and who has pledged the marriage vows.  Regardless of the evil seductive nature of the harlots and manwhores who tempt a spouse, the choice to cheat or to stay faithful is ultimately made by the one with the ring and the life partner.  Period.

So what is to become of the Ramsays, I do not yet know.  The next few days will likely reveal more sordid details, and I would imagine that a "refusal to dignify ridiculous claims with a response" will follow.  There will be a bunch of public outings undertaken by Tana and that sleazebag she's married to, and together they will likely attempt a weathering of the storm, even as their marriage falls apart behind closed doors.  The floozy will either release proof of the affair or deny it on several media outlets to extend her 15-minutes, and then she will either launch a career in reality TV or write a tell-all, or get paid for her silence (all the while still profiting from these allegations).  Once an opportunisitic b*tch, always one.

Either way, I'm done with Gordon Ramsay and his TV shows and his cookbooks.  Hubbs & I had been enjoying the Kitchen Nightmare series and had even contemplated picking up a recipe book authored by this scoundrel.  No longer.  Even if Tana takes him back, this conscience-less creep is dead to me.

Wednesday, November 05, 2008

Why O, Why?


Given that I am a Christ-follower, some of my friends have questioned why I've chosen to support Barack Obama, particularly when Democratic values have not traditionally reflected the Biblical principles to which I hold.  

I guess my answer is this: human beings are broken and fallible.  Though they espouse a particular worldview or belief set, their own nature can often betray their ability to properly reflect these principles in action.  In these last few months, as both parties campaigned for the presidency and laid out their plans and policies for the U.S., I believe that the true nature of all of the candidates came to the fore.

The Republican ticket failed to "walk the talk" of the teachings of Scripture.  Their policies reflected a strong pro-life sentiment for the unborn (the proposed overturn of Roe v. Wade) but a seemingly complete disregard for life for those who have already been born (e.g. their pro-war sentiments, McCain's tacit approval of Bush and Cheney's Abu Ghraib torture, tax break that favour a wealthy minority and allow middle and lower class citizens to continue to suffer).  Their position on "straight talk" and honesty was marred, perhaps even nullified, by their unwillingness to be transparent in their campaign (e.g. the withheld the medical records and vetting procedures for Sarah Palin) and their eagerness to attack the character of their fellow brother in Christ using mistruths and misleading insinuations (e.g. ACORN, Rev. Wright, socialist accusations, implications of terrorist associations).  They based their campaign on a platform of fear and judgment and elective ignorance of facts and truth.  Not unlike the "Christian" Bush administration, this ticket conducted themselves in a way that did not show me any spiritual fruit indicative of those who truly know and follow Christ.   

I guess the main reason why I support Obama is that throughout these last weeks of his presidential campaign, he walked with integrity and he spoke with intelligence.  He honored life and a spirit of reconciliation with his policies of negotiating with his enemies and ending unjust wars.  His heart for all people from every walk of life has been revealed throughout his life, both by his community organizing efforts and by his desire to help working and middle class people through such actions as the reduction of their taxes.  Obama has shown how much he values family, and has extolled the importance of proper education beginning in the home, and with parents who bear a huge responsibility for their children.   His plans reflect a desire to feed the hungry and help heal the sick (e.g. health care reform strategies), mandates left to all believers by Christ Himself.  Obama has also refused to slander others, even when they attacked him on a personal level; he has turned the other cheek and chosen forgiveness over retaliation.  He based his campagin on facts, on mercy, and on policy, and his victory demonstrates how powerfully his actions, and not his "Christian" label, have spoken to America's people. 

The Scriptures teach that Christ-followers will be known by their love, and that those who bear spiritual fruit show themselves to be Christ's disciples.  In Obama I have seen fruit.  In McCain and Palin, I have not.  Regardless of what the traditional Democratic belief set is, I have every confidence that President-Elect Barack Obama will live out the values that I hold dear, and bring them to the White House and into policy throughout the next four years. 

** P.S.  I also believe in a separation of Church and State...but don't get me started on that ;)